Therapy with me

What the work looks like,
before you decide anything.

How I work, what sits behind it, and a way to ask me anything before you book a thing.

Ylenia in a couples therapy session

The approach

How we look at the pattern

01

We identify the cycle

Not who started it, but what keeps it running: the small move each of you makes that pulls the other straight back in.

02

We slow it down & unpack it

It will happen in front of me and that's useful. We stop it mid-turn and look at what each of you was actually trying to say.

03

You learn new ways to move forward

Something to reach for at eleven on a Tuesday night, when it starts again and neither of you wants another round.

MY VALUES & HOW THEY GUIDE THE WORK

Three things you can count on

Relatable

You'll meet a person, not a blank face

Therapy works best when you're met by a human, not a blank face. You don't have to arrive composed, explain yourselves carefully, or take turns being the reasonable one. The training sits underneath, and what you'll notice is a room you can be honest in.

Transparent

You'll know what it costs before you commit

Trust starts with knowing what you're walking into. You'll know what sessions cost, how they run, and what I think is realistic before you commit to anything. And if I'm not the right fit for what you're carrying, I'll say so and help you find someone who is.

Purposeful

You'll leave with something to use this week

Therapy should go somewhere. Many of the couples I see have tried before and found it turned into talking in circles, so we work on the pattern underneath the argument rather than the argument itself, and you leave with something you can use between sessions.

What I offer

Types of therapy I offer

A couple sitting together in a bright room

TOGETHER

Couples

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Couples therapy

You both come, and neither of you is made out to be the one in the wrong. We slow the argument down so you can hear what the other one is actually saying; and you leave with better words than the ones you’ve been using. Dating, married, or still working out whether to stay: all fine.

ON YOUR OWN

Individuals

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Individual therapy

Maybe your partner won’t come. Maybe you’re not with anyone right now. Maybe you keep ending up in the same place with different people. We look at your part in it; not to blame you, but because your part is the part you can change.

Areas I can help with

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The approaches

The approaches I use

Every couple and every relationship is different, so I don't run the same method over everyone. My training lets me use the kind of therapy that fits you and what you need.

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