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A short guide for couples who keep landing in the same conversation. It's the thing I explain most often in a first session, written down so you can read it together.

What's actually underneath

Three things to try this week

A free guide

A free guide for couples who keep circling

Why you keep having
the same argument

— and what to do about it

Ylenia

The same trigger, the same words, the same silence afterwards. And the unsettling feeling that nothing ever really changes.

I want to start by telling you something important: going round in circles doesn't mean your relationship is broken. It means something important hasn't found its words yet.

In my therapy room, I work with couples who are stuck in exactly this pattern. In almost every case, the recurring argument is not about what it appears to be about. Underneath it is something older, something unspoken: a need that hasn't been heard or a fear that hasn't been named.

What's inside

1 · Name the feeling underneath

2 · Interrupt the pattern

3 · Repair, don't just move on

This guide will help you understand what's really happening between you, and give you a starting point for breaking the cycle.

Ylenia Therapy · yleniatherapy.co.uk @yleniatherapy

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What's inside the guide

A short read, no jargon, and yours in a minute.

01 Why the same argument keeps happeningYou'll find five reasons to why the argument keeps coming back. From arguing about the symptom, to repair that never quite happened.

02 What's actually underneathWhat each of you is really trying to say when the argument takes over.

03 Three things to try this weekName the feeling underneath, interrupt the pattern, and repair rather than just move on.

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Just your name and email.

A short read, no jargon, and yours in a minute.

The guide is a starting point. A conversation goes further.

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The guide is a starting point.
A conversation goes further.